Leftover from the acceptance of fact that gay men actually existed in the 1960's and 70's, psychiatrists had to say SOMETHING about them.
In the 1980s, I remember reading in a very prominent book by an expert in mental health something to the effect:
"Gay men can live happy, productive lives, in a committed relationship, but because of the nature of their difference as compared with normal society, mostly only find happiness at home. With that, it is advised that in order for a gay man to be happy, he should primarily live his life at home."
It continued for a few paragraphs. It's final point was: WELL, YOU'RE FUCKED FOR BEING A PERVERT BUT YOU CAN'T HELP YOURSELF. SO STAY AT HOME AND DON'T SHOW YOUR FAGGOT FACE IN PUBLIC!
It was awful.
And now, gay men can openly marry, almost, in Idaho.
The last to fall will be Mississippi and South Carolina. No surprise.
There are three simple reasons that this discrimination has taken place all these years. It comes from the same nasty place that has harbored racism and extreme religiosity: Fear, greed and rage.
The greed part may sound surprising. But I do believe that greed, which fuels much competition, is a great unconscious excuse to turn a bunch of people into losers so one can then say, "Yeah, I beat that group. One fell swoop. I shall keep up my daily conquering. Increase my buffalo grab."
The fear and rage stuff...well, people are loaded with that garbage. No explanation needed.
And now to change the tone: Thank you Supreme Court for kicking the ball back to where it belongs. Nowhere. And thank you citizens of the U.S. for being, percentage-wise, more in favor of this whole "Gay Marriage Experiment Redefinition," especially you people under 30 who are all for gay equality at an astonishing 80%. Fight that, Alabama. (Oops, my bad tone came back.)
Okay--back to good tone.
Let's have a march on Washington. Let's go and give thanks. Just go say Thank You. Sure, we fought and we fought. But now, wouldn't it be fun to have a big easy-going grateful picnic on that mall to say Thank You?
As soon as it is 50 states, let's do that.