What's My Anniversary?

Classically, Adam and I celebrate our anniversary on October 20. Our first date was on October 20, 1993. Adam made clam sauce. We’ve been together for fourteen years.

Almost eleven years later, we got married in Oregon on March 26, 2004 in Multnomah County. Pioneer Square. In front of Nordstrom’s. The wedding dinner cost $613.23. It was celebratory and when Adam went to bed on the night of our marriage, I stayed up and watched the Ted Bundy made-for-television movie. Loved it.

On April 14, 2005, our Oregon marriage was revoked. We received our $60 canceled check fee in the mail along with a letter stating our marriage license was not valid and that Oregon’s marriage laws do not allow the couple to be wed.

On June 9, 2005, according to an official letter, we became Recognized-by-the-State-of-California-Domestic-Partners in response to our mailing a Declaration Form to Sacramento, notarized by a Mail Boxes Etc. clerk on June 6 in Larchmont Village. But our official certificate states July 28, 2005—but that is only because we sent back the first certificate because Adam’s name was misspelled. The official filing is June 9, 2005.

Sometime, soon, we might get married again to become Recognized-by-the-State-of-California-Spouses. This will happen in late 2008 or early 2009, if the exurb pick-up truck drivers and farmers don’t have enough haters to vote to overturn the latest ruling. However, we gay people are probably in pretty good shape since our governor is finally on the side of gay marriage which will abet a block to an act of legislated prejudice. For insurance purpose’s, we may just have to get married again. On another random date. Put it in the book?

I think we’ll stick with October 20 as our anniversary. It’s easy to remember. It was my Aunt Rose’s birthday. It’s in the fall. It’s a good date. It celebrates clam sauce.